Thought I'd share this blog. Tina gets right down to the heart of the matter and reveals some tough steps that our egos don't easily respond to.
http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/
Metaphysical Links
Are you doing book research, reading for interest or expanding knowledge ? There are many useful links on metaphysics.
Here are some of my favorites:
My Meditation Coach Brett and Greg offer classes near San Jose as well as drop in group meditation sessions. Their site has some great links on meditation including the medical benefits of meditation.
Foundation for Mind Being Research This is an academic site on the science and philosophy of consciousness and mind. They also have meetings in the Bay area.
Bay Area Metaphysics This group is active on meetup.com, and offers a large range of metaphysical gatherings, instruction and events, as well as active an forum and blog.
Mihaly Csizszentmihalyi One of my favorite authors - his concept of "Flow" has been instrumental in my own career path.
Eckhart Tolle An amazing author for the new age. His books are capable of transforming people's lives.
Metaphysical Dictionary The definition for any metaphysical word or concept you've ever discovered is here.
Oprah - Yes Oprah! She has a page on her site dedicated to spirit, including inspirational authors and speakers.
Contact Talk Radio "Consciousness in Action" - conversations and events on consciousness, mind and body, including a store with items from subjects on "green", "kids", the Institute of Noetic Sciences, and more.
And finally, a simple yet thoughtful video on the Law of Attraction.
Here are some of my favorites:
My Meditation Coach Brett and Greg offer classes near San Jose as well as drop in group meditation sessions. Their site has some great links on meditation including the medical benefits of meditation.
Foundation for Mind Being Research This is an academic site on the science and philosophy of consciousness and mind. They also have meetings in the Bay area.
Bay Area Metaphysics This group is active on meetup.com, and offers a large range of metaphysical gatherings, instruction and events, as well as active an forum and blog.
Mihaly Csizszentmihalyi One of my favorite authors - his concept of "Flow" has been instrumental in my own career path.
Eckhart Tolle An amazing author for the new age. His books are capable of transforming people's lives.
Metaphysical Dictionary The definition for any metaphysical word or concept you've ever discovered is here.
Oprah - Yes Oprah! She has a page on her site dedicated to spirit, including inspirational authors and speakers.
Contact Talk Radio "Consciousness in Action" - conversations and events on consciousness, mind and body, including a store with items from subjects on "green", "kids", the Institute of Noetic Sciences, and more.
And finally, a simple yet thoughtful video on the Law of Attraction.
It's about time
It has been some months since I've posted.
I've dedicated my writing time, these past few months, on a new book. It's about time, however, to let the etheric connections of the internet know I'm still around, though in the true ether, time is irrelevant.
Since my ego knows procrastination well, blog writing could be a great tool for procrastination if I let it. As I focused on my book, I knew that one more distraction would delay my book writing even more than kids, cleaning or cooking (afterall, kids are a priority, blogs...not always). But blogs can also be great forums for ideas, pause and clarity.
For example, I regularly follow a blog called Think Simple Now. Tina and her contributors write well, and allow me to pause in my day and think.
I've dedicated my writing time, these past few months, on a new book. It's about time, however, to let the etheric connections of the internet know I'm still around, though in the true ether, time is irrelevant.
Since my ego knows procrastination well, blog writing could be a great tool for procrastination if I let it. As I focused on my book, I knew that one more distraction would delay my book writing even more than kids, cleaning or cooking (afterall, kids are a priority, blogs...not always). But blogs can also be great forums for ideas, pause and clarity.
For example, I regularly follow a blog called Think Simple Now. Tina and her contributors write well, and allow me to pause in my day and think.
Following other writers is useful. What makes me want to keep reading? How do they simplify their thoughts? How do they get their point across? How do they relate examples to their theme? ...how can I improve my own life through reading others' ideas?
I realize I cannot just focus on kids, husband, house and writing. I need time for myself. I meditate, I attend classes and lectures, I belong to a mom's group. I have my blog, and the writing of others.
And now I have a deadline for my writing. Though in the grand scheme of things, time is irrelevant (I will either complete my work or I won't), those setting the deadline don't work in the timeless ether. Once their date has passed, that's it. My procrastinating ego needs this kick in the butt.
It's about time.
Presence
Presence - an ongoing struggle with self, and with mistaken priorities of responsibility, obligation and fear that keep me out of the present moment.
Why can I not stay present?
While my children play, the dishes must be cleaned up, the garden watered and the dog hair swept up. While Paul reads to the children the laundry must be folded. While the children do their homework another email must be answered.
I spend my time cleaning for the future, preparing for another day, trying to connect with long distance friends, and forget (or ignore?) two of those I am closest to.
Funny thing, my true self, my essence, is aware of the awareness I have that I continue a habit keeping me from the present... yet I continue... I have a strong ego, a stubborn one - but is a stubborn ego what keeps me from the present?
They seem so insignificant, the activities I do... even the children are so focused on the present, they do not hear me when I ask them to clean their room, brush their teeth or pick up their clothes. Perhaps it is my stubborn need to control my environment ...what is this life all about anyways? Cleanliness? Tidiness? What happened to play, laugh, enjoy? My children get it - the insignificance of those activities...
During my meditation last night, it occurred to me that I hadn't seen my "new relationship self" in quite some years. I told Paul I'd like to spent time with her again. My "new relationship self" (NRS) seemed to find laughter in the small things. The present was joyful, the present was worth paying attention to because the future didn't matter. NRS ignored the future because I knew it would work itself out, especially if she paid attention to the future.
NRS, I assured Paul, had nothing to do with starting a new relationship (at least in the present moment). It had everything to do with remaining present.
Why can I not stay present?
While my children play, the dishes must be cleaned up, the garden watered and the dog hair swept up. While Paul reads to the children the laundry must be folded. While the children do their homework another email must be answered.
I spend my time cleaning for the future, preparing for another day, trying to connect with long distance friends, and forget (or ignore?) two of those I am closest to.
Funny thing, my true self, my essence, is aware of the awareness I have that I continue a habit keeping me from the present... yet I continue... I have a strong ego, a stubborn one - but is a stubborn ego what keeps me from the present?
They seem so insignificant, the activities I do... even the children are so focused on the present, they do not hear me when I ask them to clean their room, brush their teeth or pick up their clothes. Perhaps it is my stubborn need to control my environment ...what is this life all about anyways? Cleanliness? Tidiness? What happened to play, laugh, enjoy? My children get it - the insignificance of those activities...
During my meditation last night, it occurred to me that I hadn't seen my "new relationship self" in quite some years. I told Paul I'd like to spent time with her again. My "new relationship self" (NRS) seemed to find laughter in the small things. The present was joyful, the present was worth paying attention to because the future didn't matter. NRS ignored the future because I knew it would work itself out, especially if she paid attention to the future.
NRS, I assured Paul, had nothing to do with starting a new relationship (at least in the present moment). It had everything to do with remaining present.
I found NRS while camping in July. She didn't worry about the future. She focused on visiting with family, walking on the beach, celebrating togetherness (and a reasonable but not overly focused amount of cooking/cleaning, made easier because the workload was shared).
I must let my "new relationship self" visit more often - I know her. She is welcome in my life...if my ego will let her.
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